Hey people, WAKE UP!
What has the government got to do with:
1. How you manage/lead your life
2. How you plan for your future
3. How you bring up your kids
4. How you treat your parents
5. How you eat, sleep, talk, or even shit.
Why do we need the government to set laws for us with regards to caring for our own parents? Every human is made up of flesh and blood, if these people doesn't have any common sense nor filial piety, perhaps somewhere down the road, during their development period, the emotional or sensorial part was never developed at all; that is why they now have no feelings and no sense.
By setting regulations for children to keep up maintenance for their parents, we are merely cleaning up the primary issues. The secondary issue here is: Every individual must understand their position as a child, as a human being. If we always have to rely on regulations to make one 'move', what is the difference in having a robotic-society?
Let's be fair and look at things from another angle.
Living standards, compared to our kampong days, have changed tremendously, not to mention the high cost in living. Our parents have been through the hardest time, they have painfully slogged to make ends meet and finally created a happy family of their own. Now they have aged, and we, their children, are faced with the high cost of living, trying to make ends meet, and also it is our turn to try create our happy family. Thirty or forty years back, it is fine when parents feed their parents with simple meal like congee and salted vegetables or salted fish. Now, if one were to feed their parents with the same food, I believe sarcasm remarks will come flooding in within seconds or maybe parents will start complaining (they may have forgotten that their parents never complain then).
Look ~ society change, people change, expectations change. So who is right or who is wrong?
The cost of private nursing homes can come up to an average of ~1.5k per month. Government nursing homes do provide subsidies for patients and levels of subsidy depending on patient's family total income. Most children sent their parents to nursing homes because:
1. their parents are unwell and requires consistent medical attention,
2. no one is available to look after their elderly when all is at work, etc.
Everything is about $ now.
Agree, if you say, what the elderly need is just that little care and concern from their children.
But what about those who expects more and the children are unable to live up to their expectations?
Who doesn't want to lead a carefree life (like the kampong days), when the whole family sleeps under the same roof, eat simple meals and laugh over the smallest jokes, when one doesn't have to worry on the high living cost, when one cup of kopi cost just 15cents.
Since time has changed, perhaps it is also time to re-educate people's minds? Rather than depending on our children for our future maintenance, perhaps we should learn to depend on ourselves, and strip off this unnecessary burden off our children's shoulder.
We decide to have children as they bring joy and happiness to our family, not so that we will be taken care of when we aged. It is not the responsibility of our children to take care of us; the responsibility lies with our partner (husband/wife) or ourselves. Our children will have their own responsibilities they have to take care of when their time comes; i.e. when they in turn set up their own family.
Filial Piety, is greatly emphasized in our Chinese Culture. It should be performed willingly from the heart of a person, rather than being forced to.
Eventually, one have to show filial piety towards their parents, before they can expect their own children to show the same to them.
It is one's own call; not the government's, to pass down the notion of filial piety.
Learn to take charge of your own life now and live it to the fullest.
Let the children decide what they think is best for their parents, because, they should know best!
May all be blessed!
What has the government got to do with:
1. How you manage/lead your life
2. How you plan for your future
3. How you bring up your kids
4. How you treat your parents
5. How you eat, sleep, talk, or even shit.
Why do we need the government to set laws for us with regards to caring for our own parents? Every human is made up of flesh and blood, if these people doesn't have any common sense nor filial piety, perhaps somewhere down the road, during their development period, the emotional or sensorial part was never developed at all; that is why they now have no feelings and no sense.
By setting regulations for children to keep up maintenance for their parents, we are merely cleaning up the primary issues. The secondary issue here is: Every individual must understand their position as a child, as a human being. If we always have to rely on regulations to make one 'move', what is the difference in having a robotic-society?
Let's be fair and look at things from another angle.
Living standards, compared to our kampong days, have changed tremendously, not to mention the high cost in living. Our parents have been through the hardest time, they have painfully slogged to make ends meet and finally created a happy family of their own. Now they have aged, and we, their children, are faced with the high cost of living, trying to make ends meet, and also it is our turn to try create our happy family. Thirty or forty years back, it is fine when parents feed their parents with simple meal like congee and salted vegetables or salted fish. Now, if one were to feed their parents with the same food, I believe sarcasm remarks will come flooding in within seconds or maybe parents will start complaining (they may have forgotten that their parents never complain then).
Look ~ society change, people change, expectations change. So who is right or who is wrong?
The cost of private nursing homes can come up to an average of ~1.5k per month. Government nursing homes do provide subsidies for patients and levels of subsidy depending on patient's family total income. Most children sent their parents to nursing homes because:
1. their parents are unwell and requires consistent medical attention,
2. no one is available to look after their elderly when all is at work, etc.
Everything is about $ now.
Agree, if you say, what the elderly need is just that little care and concern from their children.
But what about those who expects more and the children are unable to live up to their expectations?
Who doesn't want to lead a carefree life (like the kampong days), when the whole family sleeps under the same roof, eat simple meals and laugh over the smallest jokes, when one doesn't have to worry on the high living cost, when one cup of kopi cost just 15cents.
Since time has changed, perhaps it is also time to re-educate people's minds? Rather than depending on our children for our future maintenance, perhaps we should learn to depend on ourselves, and strip off this unnecessary burden off our children's shoulder.
We decide to have children as they bring joy and happiness to our family, not so that we will be taken care of when we aged. It is not the responsibility of our children to take care of us; the responsibility lies with our partner (husband/wife) or ourselves. Our children will have their own responsibilities they have to take care of when their time comes; i.e. when they in turn set up their own family.
Filial Piety, is greatly emphasized in our Chinese Culture. It should be performed willingly from the heart of a person, rather than being forced to.
Eventually, one have to show filial piety towards their parents, before they can expect their own children to show the same to them.
It is one's own call; not the government's, to pass down the notion of filial piety.
Learn to take charge of your own life now and live it to the fullest.
Let the children decide what they think is best for their parents, because, they should know best!
May all be blessed!
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